Have you ever noticed that you are going about your day nicely when something occurs in your awareness… it could be an interruption to your focus from an external source or it could be a self generated thought that arises all on its own. Suddenly upon thinking this thought you begin to create a story about it – often times a story that makes you feel bad, scared, sad or upset in some way. It is great when we can early on during that process, recognize that we are creating a negative story from a single thought and decide to create a positive outcome to that story. For example, you feel pain in your body. You begin imagining having to live with this pain forever, never to feel good again. The next thing you notice is that your mood has spiked downward and the rest of your hour or day feels like it went south. You share your story, hoping someone will commiserate with you; or you may justify consuming a pint of ice cream to palliatively make yourself feel better. Only to continue to spiral downward.
That is one option.
Another option could be…feel pain, consider what movement or activity caused the pain; use the information to avoid further pain and/or lay down on the floor, on your bed or on a yoga mat and stretch your body to find the place where that pain is no longer felt. Imagine staying in that position for as long as it feels good. In this case scenario, we can use that awareness that we have pain, to find an opportunity to heal our pain. This could be either physical or emotional pain. What activity or new thoughts can we cultivate within a short amount of time from the initial uncomfortable experience to create a different, more positive outcome to the story that we are likely telling ourselves. Can we bring inspiration into the opportunity from the awareness and heal our body/soul simultaneously?
This happened to me today in yoga where I felt a pain, and the position that felt most supportive and comforting was for me to bring my knees up to my chest in a tight ball and hug myself. It was a rare occasion, however I opted to stay in that position and indulge myself in a way that brought on a whole new awareness. The new awareness was that I was giving myself a super big, long, tight hug representing self love. How very long it had been since I gave myself such a big hug. It made me think about how many others need to give themselves that big, loving hug and let it really mean something. I know for me, losing my mother as a newborn baby may likely have triggered events which created a habit of feeling some kind of pain – whether physical or emotional, and not having someone there to make it all better for me, given my limited resources at the time. In other words, not having the capacity to change the story I may have been creating. However, as I spend time in the community observing people and families, I become keenly aware that so many are going without love for self, for others and from others.
The reason for my share today is to remind and/ or inspire any of you who have read through this post, to be attentive to the little baby within, that is crying out, needing love; and to find a way to care for that gentle soul within. In doing so, we may inspire our children, our parents and everyone in our world to be more loving, kind, patient and gentle with each other.
Big Love and Hugs,
Dr. Diana Joy
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